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Sam
Jul 23, 2019
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What Men Want...? ” From someone has been Observing and Collecting Feedback from male and Female I am not taking any one's side I am just stating facts based on too many feedback ” It's very common now than , now the women are asking what men really want in a woman. It’s exciting to see the response to these types of articles, because it’s proof that there are men out there who are really striving to be the best they can be (, and women who are holding out for them. JUMPSTART YOUR LOVE LIFE But because relationships aren’t one-sided, they’re not the best they can be unless both parties are striving toward health, holiness, and healing in their lives. I think sometimes it’s easy for women to see the deficits and needs in the men around them, while never fully acknowledging the need for growth in their own lives. What it comes down to is this: just like women are not satisfied in defining a real man by his muscle mass and sex drive, real men are shifting their perception of what they are looking for in a woman ). I see a new generation of men rising up, who in their maturity and discernment understand that boobs, bikinis, and sex appeal have little to do in the equation of a healthy and meaningful marriage. Herearethequalitiesthatrealmenarelookingforintheir brides-to- be: Men Want A Woman Who Is Real: It’s sometimes hard to believe that being “real” is attractive to a man. I think it’s easy for us women to look at the billboards and magazines that fill our minds with airbrushed beauty and enhanced bodies and think that being real makes you less than the others. But I’ve found that real men are attracted to a woman who reveals her natural self. My husband has always told me that I’m most beautiful when I am most like me: before the makeup, the hair, and the fashion have taken away from my natural self. I hear that same thing from men time and time again. There is something about the beauty of a real woman that far exceeds the plastic Barbie version of ourselves that we women so much strive for and believe in. But men are not simply looking for a woman who is real with her appearance, but real with who she is. When it comes to attracting a real man, there is no need to pretend. They’re not looking for a woman who pretends to be into sports, cars, sex, or anything else she thinks her man wants. They are looking for a woman to be fully herself... personality, quirks, deficits and all. Ladies, these are the things that make you unique and set you apart from every other woman. Embrace your real self, and let it shine. What Men Really Want In a Woman Is Confidence: There is something about a confident woman that exudes beauty and attraction to a man. A woman who is confident knows who she is and what she believes, and holds on to that in her interactions with others. She believes in herself, and knows that she is valuable standing alone. She’s not defined by her relationship status, her physical appearance, or her sex appeal. She doesn’t buy into the lies that her value is dependent on what she does- but rather, who she is. Because a woman of confidence is aware that her value is rooted in nothing else but who she is in Christ, there is no need to flirt around or flaunt her stuff Flirting and flaunting will most definitely attract a certain type of man to your side, but you’ll have to keep flirting and keep flaunting your entire life in order to keep his interest. I don’t know about you ladies, but that kind of relationship dynamic is far too much work and emotional baggage for my liking. There’s no need for skimpy outfits and cleavage when you’re on the hunt for a real man- because real man will be attracted to you because of who you are- not what you have to offer him...and just continuing to be yourself will be all you need to do to keep him there. That’s what healthy relationships are meant to be. What Men Really Want In a Woman Is Real Beauty: Most men will tell you that it’s important for them to be attracted to their significant other. The problem with this is that sometimes we as women misinterpret this to think that the way to a man’s heart is by achieving super-model status. We beat ourselves up emotionally, physically, and mentally trying to fit into a mold that we were never meant to fill. From what I understand- to a real man, beauty is defined as so much more than physical appearanc (https://truelovedates.com/how-much-do-looks-matter-the- responses-will-shock-you/)e. I’ve met tons of men who are completely turned off by women who are gorgeous on the outside, but hollow on the inside. Real men are looking for a woman who displays true beauty, a beauty that cannot be enhanced, made up, or airbrushed. They are looking for a woman who resonates with the beauty of kindness, compassion, humor, strength, love, joy, and gentleness. Believe it or not, real men are more interested in the size of a woman’s heart and mind than the size of her waist. It’s ironic then, that our society pressures women into keeping their focus on the external- the things that matter very little at the end of every relationship ). Unlike physical beauty, true beauty cannot be fabricated...and it’s the only thing that will draw and keep the heart of a real man. And true beauty is what men really want in a woman, a beauty that runs deep. A quote I read says it best, “A real man is not looking for the most beautiful woman in the world, but for the woman who will make his world the most beautiful”. What Men Really Want In A Woman Is Passion: Let me clarify- there is a huge difference between a passionate woman, and an dramatic woman. The first is the kind that men flock to, the latter is the type they run away from...and never look back. If there is one thing that I hear again and again from men, is that women need to be less emotionally-driven. Men, as much as I hate to admit it, I think you’re onto something here. Emotions are such a valuable part of human beings, for men and women alike. But I think a huge problem arises within the tendency for women to let their emotions take the lead. It’s important for us as women to be driven by what we know and balanced by what we feel. Feelings should never lead the way. But now that we’ve discussed what passion isn’t, here’s what it is- being a passionate woman means allowing your heart and life to be driven by things that are meaningful, invested in things that are good, and living a life that is purposeful. What Women Really Want in a Man (woman whose life is not defined by nail salons, tanning beds, and clothing boutiques- but one who lives for so much more. It means having goals, believing in dreams, and holding on to your values. It means being defined and propelled by justice, mercy, forgiveness, charity and grace. It means striving for healing in your own life and in the world around you. Living a life of passion is important, because that passion will seep into every part of your life- dating relationships . It’s time to redefine the qualities that we as women think we need to have to impress a man, because sometimes what we strive to be is what culture tells us – and not what men really want in a woman. It’s time to say NO to the draw of sex appeal and begin to believe that true admiration from men to women comes only when we begin to respect ourselves. Real men are looking for real women who will reflect to them the qualities of a loving God- a God who has made us to be confident, passionate, genuine – and oh, so beautiful in every way. May we as women strive to reflect Him in all that we do. Because THIS is what men really want in a woman. Real men, come and get it...
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Sam
Jul 23, 2019
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How to Start Dating Again After Divorce It takes a certain amount of time to recover from the emotional wounds divorce causes, but you will recover. The next step is to start dating again. 📷 While marriage should be one of the happiest times in your life, divorce is the exact opposite. It is devastating. You started dating the love of your life, you got the ring size, you bought the ring, you had a large wedding ceremony. And now, you’re paying for an attorney and fighting with your soon-to-be former spouse over assets and liabilities. The bright side of divorce is that your life is not over. It takes a certain amount of time to recover from the emotional wounds divorce causes, but you will recover. The next step is to start dating again. Here’s how to start dating again after divorce. Return to the Dating World After a period of time and reflection, you may want to start dating again. If it’s been a while since you’ve dated, you may feel like an alien from a different planet. This is okay. It takes time and patience. Luckily, there are different ways you can start dating again. These include different dating sites. The trick is to weed out trolls or fake accounts. Trust your instincts and get to know the person if there is a mutual attraction. Be honest and forthright with what you are looking for. Are you seeking a long term relationship or casual dating? The more information you give, the more real it will be. Self-Confidence Divorce can be a devastating period in your life. It might make you feel like you’re nothing. Don’t believe the hype! Just because something didn’t work doesn’t mean your social life is over. Self-confidence is one of the most attractive elements. If you cower away from meeting new people, you will never meet new people. Dating is like fishing. If you don’t cast your line out, your chances of catching a fish diminish greatly. Don’t let the idea of failure make you feel worse. It might take a while to find the right person, but if you keep trying and keep your self-confidence intact, you will find them. Dating You’ve succeeded in finding the right person. The key is to not appear needy. If you have your self-confidence strong, this shouldn’t be a problem. The next important step is to get out of the “married” mode. You’re no longer married. This new person is not your spouse. Sometimes, it’s easy to fall into the mode where you want to be more involved with the person you’re dating. But the problem is: you are only dating. You have to get rid of the “I’m married” feeling. Let the person be independent and free. If they are interested in you, they willshow you attention. The last thing a person wants is to be followed closely, especially in the early stages of dating. Self-confidence and self-awareness are factors that will serve a high level of importance in the early stages of dating. Remember, if it doesn’t work out…it wasn’t meant to be. It’s better to be out of a potentially bad relationship early than regret it later. Going Slow Reaps Rewards Good things don’t happen fast. They take time. The key is patience and understanding. Go slow at first and ascertain if the relationship is something you can invest yourself and your time into. A relationship that seems weak in the beginning will not get better; in fact, it will become worse. Take heed of any warning signs. It’s an important thing to note that usually bad signs are seen from both sides. This is where honesty prevails. If it’s not working, don’t be afraid to be honest with the person you’re dating. Introspection is Important Take the time to ask yourself: why are you dating? Are you lonely? Do you think your life would be more complete if you had someone special in your life again? The important thing to avoid is filling a blank spot in your life. You are not replacing your spouse. This spells immediate failure. Look for something new in the date. Build a friendship before a relationship. This is how you get to know the person and develop a successful bond. But you have to look into yourself and find out the reason you want to start dating again. You should want to date because you want companionship. Don’t be scared to get to know a few new people. There is no shame in testing the waters. You will find a more complete and successful relationship by loving yourself before someone else. 
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